Flying (With Children)

If you really knew me, then you would know how much I hate flying. This irrational fear has only gotten worse as I have gotten older.

The last time we flew was over a year ago-- to Todd's sister's wedding in San Diego. Rocco was a little over a year old. I then realized what was worse than flying with an irrational fear of flying: putting my child on an death trap airplane with the irrational fear of it crashing into smithereens. I silently cried during take off-- big, fat tears rolled down my cheeks. The woman sitting next to me looked at me like I was a crazy person. Rocco said, "It's okay, Mama." He wasn't phased one bit. I guess I was the bigger baby that day than my one-year-old.

To make my anxiety levels even worse is having to endure the judgmental stares from non-parents who are also flying alongside us. "Make that kid shut up!" they silently scream at the backs of our heads. "Can't that kid sit still?" their eyes question as I pull out every toy, book, snack, sippy cup, you name it to try to sidetrack my child and keep him preoccupied.

Sigh.

Believe me, we want our child to sit quietly and peacefully just as much as you do-- if not more. There's a lot of pressure on us-- and our kid. It makes flying incredibly more horrible than it already is. Believe me when I say that it is extremely difficult for someone like me-- who is already terrified while sitting on a plane-- to try to deal with an unhappy child.

In one week from now, we will be loading a plane to San Diego again. This time with two children. Double the carry-ons. Double the luggage. Double the anxiety. Double the judgmental stares...

...and make it a double shot in my pre-flight cocktail.

Shaffer Update!

Hello, Loyal Readers!

Here's a little update on my family:
The last major milestone I blogged about was our trip to Condon in June. This summer has gone all too quickly for us, so we have now put the pedal to the metal on some goals we wanted to achieve before school started back up again.

Around The House
Todd and I have been doing some random DIY projects around the house (painting and constructing Ruby's bed and redecorating her room, constructing Rocco's bunk beds, new bathroom storage cabinet, etc.)-- the most notable being the refurbished China hutch. I didn't take a "before" photo-- as I am always too anxious to get started. But I did take some "during" photos and an "after photo". Before the paint job, the hutch was a medium Oak wood with brushed gold hardware (can you say ICK?) I painted the whole thing black and distressed it. I looked at Home Depot for new hardware, but, to my dismay, the original hardware had odd measurements, so I was forced to make do with what I had. I debated spraying it silver or matte black. I decided with the matte black so it would blend into the furniture more-- I really hated the hardware as it was. Now, I love it. It looks completely different in black! Originally, there were glass panels with gold panes in the upper doors. To give it a rustic look, I decided not to put in the glass, but to add screen instead. I am thrilled with the result:

Solar Energy

Todd and I were accepted into a solar pilot program and it pays us 28.5 cents per every watt of solar energy we produce. There are a handful of guys installing the approximate 30 foot solar panel (28 panels total) right now. I don't know much about it-- I am super skeptical! So, if you have more questions, call Todd! :) All I know is that is supposedly going to save us money. And is a big deal. I guess?

Fourth of July

It was fairly laid back this year-- as we have little Miss Ruby-- and the heat was out of control (over 100 degrees ever day!) So, we stayed inside or in the shade as much as possible. We did go to the park one day to check out the vendors after Lion's breakfast. Rocco slid down the giant inflatable slide and went on the swings. We also made sure to watch the parade. We met up with our friend and Rocco's babysitter and her two boys. It was a blast!

Barton/Adams Wedding
Recently, a family friend got married. She looked stunning and the groom was glowing. They were such a happy, cute couple. I wish them the best!

Boise Zoo
We took Rocco and Ruby to the zoo about a week ago. They were excellent! Rocco was thrilled to see all of the animals-- the monkeys are his favorite! But he hated the new animatronic dinosaurs. They scared him. He always looks forward to the giraffe slide (as tall as a real giraffe) and hand feeding the goats. Ruby did not make a sound the entire time we were at the zoo-- just took it all in. And ended up falling asleep right before we left. It was definitely the highlight of summer vacation so far!

Grandma Mary's 82nd Birthday
We all got together to celebrate Mother Mary's birthday recently. She is a young 82 and looks great! I love that I get to live close to my family and spend time with them-- especially birthdays. Birthdays are my favorite!

Rocco & Ruby

Rocco is growing like a weed and is not slowing down at all. He has had a great summer playing outside, going to the park, doing a week of swim lessons, and going on miscellaneous adventures. He is still infatuated with anything and everything dealing with fire trucks and fire fighting. He is also into Wreck it Ralph and Transformers. And he is super interested in construction stuff, too. We sure do have fun with him!

Ruby is also growing like a weed. She rolls around with ease, but has no desire to crawl yet. She loves sticking her toes in her mouth, eating baby food, making "smack/kiss" noises with her mouth, banging toys with her hands, splashing around during bath time, and smiling at people. She is a quiet little girl and loves to take it all in. It will be fun to watch her grow up.

The Rest of the Family

My mom is still enjoying retirement. So much that I am worried she is going to quit her babysitting job in the fall (not really!) She has been busy quilting and volunteering for lots of charities around the valley. The most notable is her work with the Boys and Girl's Club of the Treasure Valley. She has always been such an advocate for kids. My dad is busy, busy, busy-- farming away. Looking out my back door, I can see that they are swathing hay as I type. His crops look good this year. Todd's folks are doing well. Todd's dad was appointed county judge in January so he has been busy taking classes, going to trainings, attending meetings, and learning the ropes of his new job. Todd's mom stays busy at the bank and is always working on something around their house. They recently remodeled their kitchen and added a shop to their house. We were there when they were pouring cement-- something Rocco loved watching-- and we were able to get the kids' names in the wet cement. Jason and Lora are busy with Jaxon-- he is also growing like a weed and is so cute. Lora will be going to Jason Aldean at the end of the month-- her birthday gift from the family. Todd's sister, Stephanie, and her husband, Jim, are expecting a little girl ANY TIME! Her name is Jillian Marianne. We are eagerly awaiting news of her arrival! Everyone else not mentioned is good-- happy and healthy.

Looking Foward...

I am getting a much-needed and much-deserved 90 minute massage on Wednesday. Enough said!

I am also taking a CPR/First Aide class next week. It's the only "real" class I am taking this summer. I took some online classes and am proud to say that I am officially all the way across the payscale! Yahoo for me!

Todd and I will be celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary on the 25th. We are going to a restaurant in Boise called Barbacoa. There have been several people who have recommended it to us and it looks neat, so we thought we would try it!

We will be taking the kids to San Diego to visit Stephanie, Jim, and Jillian at the end of this month. We're hoping for a play day at the beach, a trip to Lush, and a possible visit to Sea World. With the HOT weather here, we are looking forward to the mild temperatures in San Diego. Mostly, it will be good to see family and meet my niece. Hopefully, we will be there for at least part of the time Todd's parents will be down there-- I think they are going to be there for a couple of weeks.

Todd has had the summer off of football commitments as he stepped down from assistant coaching high school football to head coaching middle school football. He is looking forward to switching gears this fall and being able to spend more time with his family.

Work starts August 19 for us with two inservice days before kids come. So that means that we have just about a month of summer break left. Yikes!

September is a big month for us-- my dad, Todd, and Rocco all have birthdays. Rocco will have his birthday on September 7th-- bounce house again for him and his friends! Todd is turning 30 on September 18th. Homecoming will be the end of September and that is a super busy but fun time for me. A fellow teacher and I are in charge of all of the festivities and it is a BIG deal where we are from. Then, in October, Rocco and Ruby will host their annual Pumpkin Patch Party. Fall is my favorite time of year, so I am looking forward to it.

I hope everyone enjoys the rest of their summer-- we are going to enjoy it while it lasts!

10 Year Reunion Recap

I came. I saw. I was home by 8:30 p.m. that night.

To say the reunion was bad is too harsh... but to say it was good is an overstatement. Here's the scoop, from my perspective:

The positives:

-A great turn-out! There were more people there than I anticipated and a lot of people came from afar, which was awesome. We had two classmates come all the way from Hawaii, among other places. Out of a class of 65, I believe we had 25 classmates, which seems pretty legit for a 10 year reunion. Plus, most brought a "plus 1" so we had quite the group.

-Good location: we had more than enough room to mingle, which was great. And there was alcohol, which, in my situation, was a necessity in this situation.

-The people: with the exception of a couple people, everyone appeared to be genuinely happy to be there, were nice to everyone, and friendly. I didn't see a lot of cattiness, awkwardness, or weirdness, which was a pleasant surprise.

(Pre-Party shots. Mandatory for the 10 year reunion. You never know what to expect!)

The negatives:

-Lack of time: there was not enough time to really have a conversation with anyone. I know that I tried to catch every person and at least spend a couple minutes with each person. But there's not a lot of details you can get into in two short minutes. I wish we would have either had more time that night together or had another activity the day after.

-Lack of activities: we had a three hour block for drinks, dinner, and mingling-- adults only. That's it. It seems like a lot of time, but it wasn't near enough. I am definitely hosting a family BBQ at my house with the next reunion to try to give people more opportunity to catch up and meet each other's kids.
-No teachers invited. A lot of classmates actually mentioned wanting to see specific teachers.
-No school tour. Classmates who have not been here since high school wanted to walk the hallways again.
-No awards, no year books passed around to look and laugh at, no speeches or guest speakers, etc. It was a "fend for yourself" and make your own fun during the three-hour block period. I brought 10 year goals we each wrote as seniors in high school that a wonderful teacher saved for us and passed them around, which were a hit. I think we would have had more fun with more things like that at the dinner.

-Not enough food! I talked to quite a few people that were starving and wanted more food. My husband was one of them :)

-Group photo: we had several people missing from the photo, which sucks, because people are still being "left out" 10 years later.

(Top: Keely Koda Davison, Darci Camp, Lacie Norton Jenkins, Kacie Recla Shaffer, Neaomy Lovelady, Nicki Sappe, Rachel McPheeters Dees, Clayton Dauwalder, Ashley Robertson, Jacob Torrey, Cody Bates, Matt Johnson. Bottom: Logan Keller, Eric Saunders, Mike Larcade, Ryan Hicks, Mike Dentinger, Kyle Barton, Chance Skerjanec.)

The best part of the night was being able to see faces I hadn't seen in a long time. Getting a hug and spending a few moments with everyone was awesome. I will forever be happy that I went to the reunion if for nothing else but for those moments. I learned that one of my classmates served overseas and is now flying helicopters-- it's a good thing I save his life back in high school (No joke. I really did save his life.) Another classmate is having some adventures in the medicinal marijuana growing, harvesting, and selling business. We have teachers, truck drivers, an onion sales rep, a BLM fire fighter, and more. Some classmates already have established careers and some are plugging away at school. One classmate was passionate about her studies in physical therapy while a couple others talked hair color because they are both in cosmetology school-- it's actually pretty scientific stuff! I learned how couples met-- one couple at a party (I thought I heard the husband say, "I threw up on her at a party" when he actually said, "I met her through a party" so that was funny.) Another couple met online. We have a set of classmates that went to school together since middle school and are now married with four beautiful kiddos. There were classmates who recently had babies and some who recently became engaged. Classmates who overcame addiction. Classmates who stayed here... and some who are bonafied gypsies. And one classmate who is an MMA fighter! We are an eclectic group!!!

(Top: Matt Johnson. Middle: Logan Keller, Keely Koda Davison, Rachel McPheeters Dees, Nicki Sappe, Kacie Recla Shaffer, Darci Camp, Clayton Dauwalder, Ashley Robertson, Jacob Torrey, Cody Bates. Bottom: Mike Jenkins, Eric Saunders, Ryan Hicks, Kyle Wilson, Mike Dentinger, Kyle Barton, Chance Skerjanec. Missing: Lacie Norton Jenkins, Neaomy Lovelady, Francis Dyas, Jess Tolman, Luke Braniff, Amanda Johnson, Kelli Dixon Miller, Josh Hathaway, Evan Haley, Chelsie Bishop Bates, Mike Larcade, Fitzpatrick Kennedy)

Despite the negatives, I am really happy I went. I was on the fence for a long time. Even that day I contemplated faking sick. But I went, and I'm glad I did. I am glad that even for a few moments, I got to see everyone-- that far outweighs the negatives. The classmates are talking about having a 15 year reunion, and I hope it happens. Since we have one under our belts, we now know that we need more time together and more fun stuff to do as a group. Here's to the class of 2003! I hope all of my classmates stay happy, healthy, and safe until I see them again. PS: We're old farts.

("Shit, I'm old! Give me a drink!")

Mr. Yuk

When I was 4 my mom and I stopped into one of those middle of the mall hallway safety fairs. The people taught me all about poison control, but the only aspect I remember well is getting those neon green Mr. Yuk stickers. I was told to put the sticker on anything that was "yucky"...

Later, we went to a restaurant called Noodles. I ordered the children's lasagna. I loved my mom's lasagna. But this lasagna, when delivered, was... different. It had spinach in the middle. YUCK! Without saying anything, I reached into my mom's purse, grabbed out the sheet of stickers, placed one carefully on the top of the lasagna, and called the waitress over.

"This is YUCKY!" I said and sent it with her to the kitchen.

It was one of my earliest memories of being a ball-buster.

I can't help it. It's as much a part of me as the freckles on my face.

It seems as if this characteristic is either regarded highly (usually by my friends) or loathed (usually by my foes.) People usually either love me or despise me. I can see both sides of the coin. You always know where you stand with me, and I always tell you what I genuinely think when you ask for my opinion. This can be very refreshing and show those around me that I am open, honest, genuine, and trust-worthy. If I give you a compliment, you know I mean it. You always know that whatever comes out of my mouth is the honest to God truth. Or, it can be seen as rude, bitchy, judgmental, and overly blunt. Sometimes I say things people don't want to hear. I always warn them...

I was once told that being nice to someone I have an issue with is not fake, it's being polite. I beg to differ. Being nice to someone I have an issue with goes against every fiber of my being. Being neutral to someone I have an issue with seems to be the nicest I can get. And by neutral I mean ignoring them and trying not to be around them as much as possible.

However... I am working on it. Really.

Since becoming a mother, I have found that I am much better at governing myself and my words before speaking or reacting. I haven't mastered this skill quite yet, but I'm actively working on it.

Here's a recent example:

Someone asked me what I thought about a certain someone. In my mind I thought, "I hate him. He gives me bad vibes. He's stupid, ignorant, unmotivated, lazy, arrogant yet super insecure, and white-trashy. He thinks he's charming, but I see right through the act. He is BAD NEWS."

I may have thought that in my head, but this is what I said: "He's a douche."

So, see... I'm working on it.

I do think that the world would function better, however, if we all carried around a set of Mr. Yuk stickers in our belongings to place upon people and situations as a warning for all who follow our paths in life. They would be spared the lecture from us, we would be spared of the title of "ball-buster", and all the yucky stuff could just be avoided with one little neon green sticker.

Condon Trip-- June 2013

Family Vacation #2 was supposed to be much grander than it actually was-- we were supposed to make a Tour de Oregon trip, stopping in La Grande, Boardman, Condon, Vancouver, Lincoln City, and Bend before coming back to Vale.

That didn't happen. That's way too much of a trip for the kids-- and for us-- right now.

Instead, we made the first leg of the trip-- stopping in LG, Boardman, and Condon before coming back home. It might have been a much shorter trip than we initially anticipated, but it was a great little getaway and we got to visit with some people we adore.

On our way to Boardman, we stopped at Riverside Park (have I mentioned how much I absolutely LOVE this park?!?!) to meet up with Katie, Madi, and Braiden. The kids played, the adults chased them and talked occasionally, and we all feasted on some gourmet McD's. I was happily surprised to run into an old college classmate and dance team member and her kids. We then hit the road to get to Boardman to visit the Lantis family.

The visit with Zack, Emerald, Makaila, Riley, and Chase was great! The kids played, the adults caught up, and ate some yummy Traeger BBQ'd chicken and steak. Zack took the boys to the fire department-- Rocco was so excited to put on real firefighter gear! Emerald later took me for a quick tour of the town. We stayed one night in Boardman before heading to Condon.

Our visit to Condon was very nice. It is always good to see Steve and Rhonda (Todd's parents). We also saw some other good friends, whom we miss a lot-- The Barnett Family, The Farrars, Uncle Stan and Aunt Terri, and Grandma Dorothy. We also had a visit from K'Lynn and her little beautiful girl, Kennedy, as well as Aunt Betty Lou and cousin Zoey. We mostly stuck around the house-- Rocco played naked outside the majority of the weekend-- but we did make a trip into town for the Elk's breakfast and to take Rocco to the elementary school to play. The kids were super well-behaved and traveled excellently. We couldn't have asked for much more than that!

Our next trip is supposed to be a visit to San Diego to see Todd's sister, brother-in-law, and their new baby. But there are some scheduling conflicts that might delay the trip until a later date. If that's the case, we might take our own family vacation elsewhere (lesson learned: always buy the refundable plane tickets!) like San Francisco, Vancouver to see the Dearborn clan, or Seattle to visit Uncle Gil. Heck, we might get a wild hair and go somewhere totally unexpected! Who knows?!

All I know is that so far this has been a great summer-- and will continue to be a great summer. Whenever I am with my family, I am happy! It's icing on the cake when I get to visit people who love us in return and are grateful for our company!

Here are some of the best photos from our trip:

Toxic People-- How to Deal

What is a toxic person? This excerpt very simply and perfectly describes a toxic person:

"These are angry, abusive and unhappy people who feel compelled to take out their anger and unhappiness on those around them.They will never humble themselves and admit wrong because, in their own minds, they have no problems. The problem is always, always with everyone around them who fails to meet their expectations and insatiable desires. Toxic people are known by the turmoil they create around them. Whether it is a family member, spouse, co-worker, fellow church member, neighbor or someone else, these people are able to inflict considerable pain in the people they hurt. They are not happy unless there is drama and intrigue and strife in progress. They seem to take pleasure in creating chaos where there is peace, and in hurting those who are otherwise happy by finding their weakest, most vulnerable area. Toxic people drain the life out of those around them." (source: http://ingridschlueter.wordpress.com/2009/03/05/dealing-with-toxic-people/)

Unfortunately, too many of us are dealing with toxic people in our lives. Is there someone who sticks out in your mind while reading that? If so, I am sorry. I know how much havoc a toxic person can cause to someone else. These strategies helped me deal with the toxic people in my life, and I hope it helps you, too.

Here are some useful websites:

1. http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/how-to-deal-with-toxic-people/

2. http://www.dovechristiancounseling.com/How-To-Deal-With-Toxic-People-In-Your-Life.html

Life is so very precious and too short to be anything but happy. I know that I am making a pledge to myself, my husband, and to my children to not allow toxic people to affect the life we have worked so hard to attain and maintain.

 

Vale 4th of July!

Every "Small Town, America" claims to host the best 4th of July celebration. But, let's be honest-- there can only be one winner, so I'm here to tell you why there's no where else you should be over Independence Day than my hometown of Vale, Oregon!!!

Rather than celebrating on one day, Vale jam-packs four full days of fun, giving locals and visitors more than just the typical small town celebration elsewhere. Read on!

First, there's the atmosphere. Everyone in town is simply buzzing with pride. Locals proudly show off the town's cute, historic down town, which is filled with shops and restaurants, a museum a block away, and friendly people. You can grab a burger, gravy fries, and a shake at the Starlite Cafe on one end of town for some local grub before peeking into Malheur Drug and Luzetta's Flower Shop for trinkets. And you definitely can't miss the bakery for fresh baked goods. That's just to name a few! Vale also boasts a Dairy Queen for speedy treats, Big "R" Burger, and Chavelita's restaurant with the best Mexican food north of the border (I suggest the shrimp cerviche!) The hot spot for adult only fun after the sun goes down is the Sagebrush Saloon where the owner has a great fenced in "party yard" with fun events like karaoke, pool, beach parties, mechanical bull riding, and more. New to the celebration is a Battle of the Bands competition at the Sagebrush, open to all ages. If you think America's got talent, you should see what Vale has to offer! If it's history you want, look no further. Vale is located on the Oregon Trail so visitors can see actual wagon ruts, visit the historic Stone House Museum, take a walking tour of the nationally recognized Oregon Trail-inspired murals (check out my favorite-- "Beginner's Luck" at Wadleigh Park-- I am in it!), or just grab an older community member for handed down tales of what it was like "way back when." You won't meet an unwelcoming face and everyone is more than willing to show you around their little piece of heaven.

If you're looking for fun and adventure for all ages, Vale has it! There is the more laid back events like the Oregon Trail Days and art in the park where vendors set up shop to sell food and items. Sometimes there is live music, karaoke, quilt shows, an obstacle course, and pie baking contests. If you're a local or an out of towner you won't be disappointed in the community Lions Club breakfast either. It's not just Texas that believes in big portions! For sports fans, there's a fun run and a beautiful 9-hole golf course not too far away (Country View Golf Course.) Bully Creek is a little oasis in the middle of sagebrush and dirt. It's a great place to take a dip and go for a swim, boat, fish, and/or jet ski. Plus, you can camp there, too, for a relatively cheap fee. If swimming in a lake isn't your thing, Vale has a community pool with a water slide and two diving boards. Kids hang out there all summer long-- it's the place to be! There are lots of activities for kids, too, in a town small enough to remain safe for kids to roam freely: stick horse races, sidewalk chalk art competition, a petting zoo, face painting, games in the park, and the parade. The parade is fun for all ages, but really a blast for kids. It's made up of rodeo royalty, old time cars with fancy horns (speaking of old cars, there is an old car show in the park-- usually featuring over 50 cars!), local families and groups, boisterous high schoolers threatening the crowd with water balloons, clowns, Shriners, veterans and military personnel, Smokey the Bear, firemen and engines with sirens blaring, and so much more. Candy galore, too! Make sure you take part in the Duck Race-- you can purchase a plastic duck at any of the local businesses and hope that your duckie is the first to reach the finish line on the Malheur River right outside of town. It's a sight to see hundreds of multi-colored ducks floating down the river!

And for the cowboys, and cowboys at heart, you can't miss the famous Vale Fourth of July rodeo in the Shamrock Arena! In addition to the standard rodeo events, like calf-roping, bull riding, steer wrestling, and barrel racing, Vale boasts one of the nation's handful of Suicide Races where the toughest and craziest horsemen and women run their horses full speed off a hillside, off of cliffs, over slippery pavement, and through a river. This is something you have to see for yourself to truly experience the thrill and excitement of it all. I highly suggest the river bank close to the fence so you can see the best part of the race and feel the wind whip across your face as the  horse thunders past you. Vale also hosts a Wild Cow Milking contest, which is my personal favorite event. My dad won the contest in 1988 and gave me his giant buckle adorned with rubies, gold, and silver. The gist of the event is to rope and milk a cranky mama cow the fastest. Cowboys get tossed around the arena and it's pretty comical.

Some might wonder what my favorite aspect of the celebration is-- and that's easy to answer. It's seeing people who come back year after year to my tiny home town to partake in the activities because they, too, know that Vale hosts the BEST Fourth of July celebration. It's a great time of year to see old friends and family or meet new friends. Now that I am a mother, it is fun to see my friends bring their kids to the events I once loved as a kid, and I know that my kids will also grow up loving their small-town celebration, too. It really is a great place to live and visit any time of the year, but particularly over the Fourth of July.

(This year, I will be celebrating all of the events, as well as my 10 year high school reunion! Yikes! I'm old!)

So, if you don't have plans this July, make a trip to Vale, Oregon to celebrate with us. Or mark your calendars for next summer. I promise you won't be disappointed!